The Kid Whisperer: How to stay regulated, hold kids accountable, and make students feel safe (Part 2 of 3)
Published in Lifestyles
You are forced to refer the student to the principal. Your job in getting to later is to minimize the attention and control that you give Kid. You can’t minimize the avoidance, since he has to leave, according to school policies.
Kid: I will mercilessly beat everyone in this classroom, and I will not stop until I have quenched my rage. That is all.
Kid Whisperer: Oh, dear. (Kid Whisperer calmly moves toward Kid and presses one button on his phone that has alerted a member of his school’s Crisis Response Team to come to his room and remove Kid.)
Kid Whisperer: (whispering) Oh, dear. There’s room for growth. I’ll help you do some learning later.
Crisis Response Team member takes Kid away.
To be crystal clear: Kid being taken away is not a consequence. For most kids, it is a reward, because through this very negative behavior, they are getting avoidance. By responding to Kid in this way, you are minimizing the attention and control given to Kid.
Kid Whisperer continues teaching kids who have not threatened to beat everyone until their rage has been quenched.
In the next column, I will show you how to make these “ejector seat” behaviors non-functional in the future. For now, you can use these instructions to be a master of the present.
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