Ask Amy: Runner needs to leap over frequent texter
Dear Amy: My wife is an avid runner and usually runs on the weekends with a group of regulars.
Recently a man entered the group, and he seems to be reaching out to her a lot. This started with questions about running, but seems to have morphed into other areas. He always initiates texts, and she responds politely by answering his questions.
She is completely open, shows me everything, and often brings up to him that she has plans with her husband and kids. He then glosses right over this information and basically seems to be pretending that we don’t exist.
I am not at all concerned about my wife’s behavior but I’m a guy, she’s amazing, and I have a weird sense about this.
I’m not sure how to approach this weirdness. Do you have a suggestion?
– Hapless Husband
Dear Hapless: Talk to your wife about this, and ask her how she feels about this texting contact. Is it annoying or intrusive?
And then tell her, honestly, that it bothers you. Don’t make a big deal about it, and don’t insist that she needs to block him, but tell her: “I’m a guy, you’re amazing, and I think he’s into you. This concerns me because I’m a guy, you’re amazing, and I’m definitely into you.”
Dear Amy: I admire you so much when responding to people who disagree with your answers and who criticize you for stating something you didn’t say. I often wonder if you really want to say, “Listen &#@**, did you even read my answer?”
You are always so polite that I wonder if you are actually an AI, and not human. LOL!
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