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We want to respect her interest in this and we want to keep the communication open, and so we’re not sure how to respond. Should we give in?

– Concerned Muggles

Dear Muggles: Your daughter is trying to control you. This might be a sign that her recovery has hit a snag, or that she is frustrated and antsy. This issue could become a stand-in for her grief over losing in-person contact with her child.

I think you should respond calmly and honestly. Don’t let this become “a thing.”

Assure her that you will read the book with her concerns in mind and that while “Sophie” is with you you’ll be mindful of her mother’s concerns, but that because she is living with you, you will be the primary people to make these types of decisions.

Encourage her to stick with her program. Being in recovery is the best parenting choice she could possibly make.

Dear Amy: “Confused Father” wrote to you because his current wife wants her stepchildren to call her “Mom.”

Thank you for pointing out that they currently have a mother who presumably they are attached to.

My bonus kids lost their mom unexpectedly two years ago.

While I know that I will never and should never hold that same place in their hearts, I am grateful to be a shoulder to lean on when they feel the need for a stepmom’s advice or support.

– Proud Stepmother

Dear Proud: There are many ways to be a great mom, without being called “Mom.”

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