Ask Amy: Husband’s new friend becomes a menace
To my surprise, he didn't seem to think this was a big deal. He refused to stop this guy's visits to our house.
I had to threaten to actually leave him before he agreed not to have Steve in our house.
My husband likes the help Steve gives him with his computer, etc. Yesterday he asked me to reconsider having him over. He says he’s a “nice guy.”
I responded that he is a creep.
I feel terribly disrespected and hurt, and don't know how to get over this.
– Betrayed Wife
Dear Betrayed: “Steve” sexually assaulted you.
Your response to the assault is a common reaction. You were shocked and tried to get through the moment. After that, you avoided this person because you didn't feel safe.
This was a smart move, because you are NOT safe around him.
I find your description of this guy’s presence in your lives disturbing.
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