Ask Amy: High-schooler wants to avoid ex’s drama
Dear Amy: I’m a high school student, and I have an issue with my ex-boyfriend.
We dated for two years but then I broke up with him back in November. We got together again and tried to make it work, but I ended it again with him in early January.
Our relationship wasn't good. He was a very controlling person, wanting to decide what clothing I wore or the music I listened to.
A couple of weeks after we broke up, I started dating another boy who is amazing. We’ve been dating for about three weeks and I would say that he is perfect.
I am begging for advice about how to deal with the constant trash talking and horrible rumors that my ex is spreading about me, as well as the dirty looks he gives me when I see him at school.
What do you think I should do?
– Annoyed
Dear Annoyed: First of all, I give you credit for recognizing that your former boyfriend was controlling, and for deciding to break off the relationship.
I also want to caution you to take things a little slowly with your new guy, “Mr. Perfect.” You should extend the good and careful judgment you’ve shown about your ex to this new relationship.
The tendency to see someone else as “perfect” might be what kept you in your previous relationship for such a long time.
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