Ask Amy: Marriage to a problem drinker has disintegrated
I’m so tired of living in misery.
– In Misery
Dear In Misery: You describe your life as miserable. And so – change it.
You’ve been seeking lots of advice from various constituencies, but you don’t mention seeing a lawyer. There are many practical and legal considerations you should educate yourself about, and after years of enabling and covering for your husband, it is time for you to take care of yourself.
While you are pursuing legal advice and considering your options, you should also plan a trip – and take it. Sign up with a tour group or go with friends.
Being away from your home environment and on your own will bring an important perspective to your options and the choices you must make.
Attending Al-anon meetings (Al-anon.org) would help you to understand some of your own behavior, and put you in proximity with others who are also coping with a loved one’s alcohol abuse.
Dear Amy: My wife and I have a 14-month-old baby. Overall we have adjusted pretty well to parenthood.
My wife works full time and I’m scheduled to take grad school classes three days a week, so we have been looking into daycare. We checked out some places and all had plusses and minuses. The one we thought might be the best for us is very close to my wife’s office, so it would be convenient to have our baby there.
We made an appointment and went over to tour the place.
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