Ask Amy: Manager is getting menaced at work
She also said she believes that I am intimidated by her and that I am jealous of her self-confidence, that I’m jealous of the things that she does, the way she carries herself, and the fact that she’s younger than me.
She has sent me notes and letters where she said that I’m very fragile, saying that she knew that I needed her to take care of me.
I just don’t know how to get this lady to leave me alone.
I’m a straight woman and not into her at all. I don’t need any more friends.
I feel like I’m being stalked. The sappy, needy emails and letters that she writes are just too much for me.
I am tired of this. What should I do? Should I go to HR?
– Manager in Texas
Dear Manager: Yes, you should go to HR immediately. You probably should have gone a long time ago. This person seems to be “single white female-ing” you (look it up) – becoming more manipulative and obsessive over time. You have attempted to get her to stop several times, and she has not respected your reasonable boundaries.
Print out every communication she has sent you and go to HR right away. You don’t know if she has behaved this way toward other people in the company, but her behavior toward you seems to have taken a menacing turn, and it is alarming.
Dear Amy: My girlfriend and I have been together for three years. I really love her and we both feel that marriage is the logical next step. My problem is that I really worry about losing my freedom. This fear is really standing in the way of a proposal, and I wonder if this is normal.
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