Ask Amy: Manager is getting menaced at work

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on Mar 15, 2024

– W

Dear W: Just because “marriage is the logical next step,” doesn’t mean that you should do it.

Marriage is illogical in many respects; for a lot of people, marriage is a truly exciting (and sometimes frightening) leap into the unknown. But it’s a leap they’re willing to take, because they’ll be holding hands when they jump.

I think it’s normal to be nervous about an extreme change in your life, but your fear of “losing your freedom” is telling. You should thoroughly and honestly assess exactly what losing your freedom means to you.

Free associate and write down a list – leave nothing out.

Seeing this list might help you to drill in and realize more coherently what is holding you back. And if marrying your girlfriend doesn’t feel right – don’t do it!

Unless you are truly excited about running headlong into married life with this one special person, you shouldn’t do it.

Dear Amy: “Concerned Uncle” accused his sister of raising "useless, entitled" children.

These kids are 10 and seven.

Useless? Have a heart, dude! They're kids. Wait and see how they turn out.

This uncle’s job is to be a buddy and a role model.

– Nicole

Dear Nicole: Not to mention the fact that this uncle was passing his judgment from his perch as a long-term guest in his sister’s home.

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