Ask Amy: Granddad is tired of constant video calls
After bringing it up several times, I realized that my prodding hurt my wife’s feelings.
I will occasionally move to another room, but because these are video calls, it's difficult to disengage without showing my disinterest or annoyance.
I’d just like her to keep it "short and sweet."
What do you think?
– Hanging Up
Dear Hanging Up: It sounds as if your daughter-in-law is very lonely. She wouldn’t be video chatting with her husband’s folks twice a day if she had friends, other family, and other satisfying outlets.
Has your wife discussed this with her son? (Not the annoyance of the calls, but the issue of his wife’s possible loneliness?)
Calling seems to be a lifeline for this mom, and your wife could ask her if she is involved in any playgroups or other activities with other moms and their children.
This mother likely gave birth during the height of the pandemic, and I wonder if this experience has made her self-isolate.
As the primary contact, your wife should encourage this young mom to find ways to connect with other families.
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