Ask Amy: Granddad is tired of constant video calls
On your next visit, you grandparents should look at opportunities in her neighborhood with fresh eyes. Visits to the local playground can yield abundant friendships for both the child and the parents.
Here are ways to create boundaries if she is calling at an inconvenient time: “Oh, we’re just sitting down to dinner. Is everything OK? Can we talk tomorrow?”
Additionally, I suggest that you“dial in” (pay close attention) for a few moments to make eye contact in a friendly, sincere, and open manner, and then go on your way.
You might also alter this dynamic if you initiate a call.
You can start by saying, “I just have a few minutes, but want to give you a quick hello. How’s my adorable grandchild doing?”
Dear Amy: One of my kids is getting married this spring. I have been erased and not invited at all. My ex alienated me from this child.
I do not know what to do. Should I still send a card?
Should I still send a present?
Some people say send nothing. Some say I should take myself on a nice vacation.
What do you or others recommend that I do?
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